6 Habits For Self-Love

6 Habits For Self-Love

Self-love is something I want to explore this year. We all seem to focus on the negatives about ourselves but never give time to those things we might like. And this is the year to do so. So many people are starting to embrace this concept of self-love, but what does it really mean? Self-love can mean loads of things. But it’s all about feeling good about yourself, building your self-esteem and appreciating yourself. And as one of the main trends happening this year – mindfulness, what better time to start some habits for self-love.

There are many things to do to help you appreciate yourself a bit better and practice self-love. But it’s not an overnight dealy. It does take time, but surely it has to be worth it. Not relying on others acceptance but you accept yourself.

So I’ve put together the few habits for self-love that I’ll be trying to incorporate into my routine. Nothing too extreme, but something that we can all try and do a bit more often to make ourselves feel better in the long run.

habits for self-love

1 // Don’t compare yourself to others

Okay, so I know this is super hard. We are born to basically compare ourselves and make us better than others. But maybe this is why we can’t accept ourselves and focus on the things we are doing great. Because we are always focused on the things we aren’t doing as well as.

And I feel this comparison is happening more often because of social media. We literally scroll endlessly to look at other peoples lives and see what they are doing, rather than focusing on our own. Studies have shown that social media literally lead to feelings of depression and loneliness. So first steps could be to cut down your time on social media, and I’ve been doing this recently and it is so nice not to be constantly scrolling and trying to catch up with everything. I’ll have a post coming out about all the benefits I’ve received from my mini social media detoxing soon!

2 // Stop negative self-talk

Try and monitor your thoughts for the next couple days, and you’ll realise how regularly you say negative things about yourself. Most times I look in the mirror I’ll point out a thing I don’t like rather than spotting the things I do. So quickly change those negatives into positive. And slowly this will improve your outlook drastically.

Also, allow yourself to make mistakes. We aren’t perfect. We try to be, but we can’t be. We learn so much from the mistakes, and without them how could we grow as humans. So embrace them, and focus on what you have learnt rather than point out what you did wrong.

habits for self-love

3 // Surround yourself with positive people

The people you spend your time with really influence you. You become the average of them. And if you spend all your time with negative people, then you will also become negative. So let go of these people, get rid of their toxic behaviour and find people who will improve you and help you grow. It’s pointless trying to practice self-love when the others around you will be bringing you down. Don’t think you are rude by removing these people from your life. You are numero uno. You are the only one who truly cares the most about you, so put yourself and your energy first!

4 // Practice mindfulness

This is a great habit to include in your routine as it has sooo many benefits. Not only are you becoming present in the moment, but you are also letting your thoughts flow through without affecting you. You will see the thoughts as clearly what they are and they will pass. You won’t focus on them and become so obsessed with the negativity. This is probably one of the most popular habits for self-love. Some ways you can be mindful is by meditating, doing some yoga ~ which is what I’m going to be doing. I’ve booked in at 8 am Monday morning session to start my week with being mindful!

5 // Have time to yourself

We’ve become so obsessed with this idea of being alone is lame. But really we should all schedule in sometimes for ourselves. And you can do this with one of the mindfulness habits above. But by having some ‘me time’ you will build your self-love and no longer become obsessed with others thoughts and opinions.

habits for self-love

6 // Take it one day at a time

I don’t know one person who isn’t go go go anymore. We all want to do as much as we can with all our time. Cramming in as much as we can in one day, but really we shouldn’t. This isn’t good for our minds as they are constantly working. We should appreciate each thing we do every day, change doesn’t happen overnight. Becoming too focused on the end result rather than the process is why we aren’t appreciating ourselves. congratulate yourself for having a productive day and promote positivity throughout your day.


Every step you take is amazing. It is better than doing nothing. Self-love is such a beautiful practice. Improving your outlook on yourself, feeling good and improving your self-esteem can only bring positivity and happiness. I hope one of these habits for self-love have inspired you to explore and improve your mindset.

I really hope you enjoyed my first post of 2018, the year of wellbeing and mindfulness. I cannot wait to share with you my upcoming wellbeing posts, now I’ve changed niches I feel so inspired, doing something I love.


What are your habits for self-love?




  1. 17th January 2018 / 11:22 am

    These are great and all come together. I tell people happiness isn’t in limited supply so you don’t have to take people down who you consider are “too” happy. You know the negatives one – happiness, success grows the more everyone is happy. They are not limited resources. great post

    • covetluxe
      18th January 2018 / 9:43 am

      Thank you! I agree 🙂 x

  2. Holly
    17th January 2018 / 12:22 pm

    Great post to do and great points covered, self love is so so important and should be put before anything else. I’m a sucker for comparing myself to others so that’s one thing I need to work on for sure.

    Holly x

    • covetluxe
      18th January 2018 / 9:44 am

      Well good luck on finding inner happiness! We are all our own being, therefore we shouldn’t compare ourselves, we have to live in our body and our body only 🙂 xx

  3. 17th January 2018 / 1:20 pm

    I really love these ideas Lily! I really need to focus on not comparing myself this year. I’m getting better – but there’s still a way to go!xx

    Lucy | http://www.lucy-cole.co.uk

    • covetluxe
      18th January 2018 / 9:45 am

      Thanks, just remember comparison is the thief of joy! Live your life with your own purpose x

  4. 17th January 2018 / 1:34 pm

    This is a wonderful post. I love these ideas and your attitude. Loving ourselves is so important, and something we need to always be working on.

    • covetluxe
      18th January 2018 / 9:46 am

      Agree 100%, thanks for enjoying the post 🙂

  5. 17th January 2018 / 3:17 pm

    Brilliant post and a great reminder that we need to take care of ourselves. I absolutely agree, most people are just going to fast through life without stopping and looking.

    • covetluxe
      18th January 2018 / 9:47 am

      Glad you enjoyed! You’re totally right, we just need to step back and live in the moment

  6. 17th January 2018 / 3:31 pm

    This is a great post, and so important! I think as women, we really struggle to give ourselves the same love that we give others. One thing I am making sure I do more of this year is not feel guilty if I have a duvet day, or an afternoon of reading, or anything else that gives me a little me time. I have always felt like I should be going 100 miles an hour every day. Thanks for sharing these fab tips xx

    • covetluxe
      18th January 2018 / 9:48 am

      Glad you’re putting yourself first lovely 🙂

  7. 17th January 2018 / 3:49 pm

    These are great tips and reminders. Sometimes we are too hard on ourselves as well as our worst critic!

    • covetluxe
      18th January 2018 / 9:49 am

      Definitely, we need to cut ourselves some slack

  8. 17th January 2018 / 5:23 pm

    This is an amazing post! I agree, you must rid yourself of negative people. They don’t add value to your life, energy vampires.

    • covetluxe
      18th January 2018 / 9:49 am

      Love that! Bye bye vampires haha

  9. 17th January 2018 / 7:54 pm

    Such a great post – I think comparing myself is definitely something I need to work on this year so will be taking the time to focus on what I’m doing and not everybody else. So easy for the green eyed monster to read it’s ugly head!
    Gaby xx

    • covetluxe
      18th January 2018 / 9:50 am

      It seems like we all need to stop comparing ourselves! Such a bad habit we’ve grown x

      • 18th January 2018 / 11:22 am

        100%! Social media has definitely brought it out of all of us! X

  10. 17th January 2018 / 9:15 pm

    I really need posts like this at the moment, practising mindfulness is something I really need to take the time to do!
    Thanks for the tips hun, you look super cute btw

    • covetluxe
      18th January 2018 / 9:52 am

      Thanks! Try downloading the app Headspace, it’s amazing for just having some time to block out all thoughts x

  11. 17th January 2018 / 9:30 pm

    I love these habits! Definitely for me it’s all about being okay with being alone. I think it’s so important for time with yourself but I think that gets a lot of negative press sometimes but it’s so important

    • covetluxe
      18th January 2018 / 9:53 am

      Definitely, we can’t always surround ourselves with people, we need time to just chill and love ourselves

  12. 18th January 2018 / 1:46 pm

    I really love your writing style! This post was great to read as well. I have stopped mindlessly scrolling through Instagram, I do it occasionally and I catch up with those accounts who I love, but I have managed to stop comparing myself as often as I used to which is great! I find exercise is amazing for making you feel good about yourself too xo

    Char | http://www.charslittleblog.co.uk

    • covetluxe
      21st January 2018 / 11:11 pm

      Glad you enjoyed the post 🙂 x

  13. 18th January 2018 / 7:29 pm

    This is definitely something that we ALL do! As you said, it’s just because of who we are, but actually to improve ourselves we just need to remember the good about ourselves. Remember the positives and focus on them, we are all different and that’s a good thing. We can’t all be the same! The world would be a boring place.

    Gemma | http://www.anoceanglimmer.wordpress.com

    • covetluxe
      21st January 2018 / 11:11 pm

      Love this, we are all unique and we should embrace that x

  14. Emily Isobelle Jane
    18th January 2018 / 10:14 pm

    Thanks for sharing these lovely! Im loving your shorter hair btw! I couldnt agree more with you about comparing ourselves! I think its important to support each other and applaud others for what they do well but at the same time applaud yourself for what you do well! You’ve really picked out some great points-thank you for sharing ill make sure to check back to this whenever I need to focus on self love <3

    Emily xx


    • covetluxe
      21st January 2018 / 11:12 pm

      Thanks!! Glad this could help x

  15. 19th January 2018 / 10:37 am

    Isn’t it crap how much we like to compliment others but bash ourselves!? It really does baffle me. If only we could focus on the things we love about ourselves rather than the negatives, I think they world would be a much happier and more positive place! When I’m feeling down about myself it goes either one of two ways, I’ll either get out and go do some exercise and try and get a fresh perspective or I’ll run a bath and get the chocolate out, haha! One is definitely more productive than the other but they both make me feel better 🙂
    Alice Xx

    • covetluxe
      21st January 2018 / 11:12 pm

      At least you’ve got them routines in place for when you need some extra TLC! And dw, I would defo go for the bath and chocolate too haha x

  16. Alicia
    20th January 2018 / 7:50 am

    Great post! I just read Alice comment above and I could agree more with what she’s said! Honestly we need to start putting ourselves first! This is great advice xx

    • covetluxe
      21st January 2018 / 11:13 pm

      Thank you so much lovely, and what she said is 100% true xx

  17. theglassofclass
    20th January 2018 / 5:33 pm

    Such a wonderful post! I couldn’t agree more with everything you said. I definitely need to slow down and take it one day at a time, I’m so guilty of rushing everywhere and being in a constant work mode. I need to learn how to let myself relax more.

    Julia xx

    • covetluxe
      21st January 2018 / 11:14 pm

      I think it’s very difficult to get out of the habit of constantly to work, but if you can just literally schedule in time to do as little as possible you’ll feel so much better and less stressed 🙂 x

  18. 21st January 2018 / 3:58 pm

    I absolutely love this post, all your points are completely true. Sometimes I get so caught up in being stressed over work and life that I forget to just take it easy, like you said you need to take life one day at a time. My fave thing to do for a bit of self love is to have a pamper night and then get into bed and watch a good show or a movie x

    Alice http://www.accordingtoalicex.com

    • covetluxe
      21st January 2018 / 11:15 pm

      That sounds like the best pamper night, if I wasn’t trying to be healthy than a dominoes pizza order would definitely be included in that hah x

  19. meganrosel
    22nd January 2018 / 7:30 pm

    Love this post – so damn important! xxx

  20. Anu
    22nd January 2018 / 8:40 pm

    I love this post! Surrounding yourself with positive people is definitely essential when it comes to self-love and mental health in general. I’ve tried to spend as little time as possible with negative people and it has affected my mental health so much 🙂 x

    Anu | Based On blog

  21. 26th January 2018 / 2:09 pm

    Self love is something i find so hard to practice yet it is the one thing i really need. Thank you for the lovely post

  22. 6th February 2018 / 2:30 am

    3-6 are the absolute most important ones! I have noticed how powerful surrounding yourself with positive people can be. I have been struggling with so much lately and several friends are ridiculously positive and that helped me get out and start having a brighter outlook! thanks for sharing!

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