Self-love is something I want to explore this year. We all seem to focus on the negatives about ourselves but never give time to those things we might like. And this is the year to do so. So many people are starting to embrace this concept of self-love, but what does it really mean? Self-love can mean loads of things. But it’s all about feeling good about yourself, building your self-esteem and appreciating yourself. And as one of the main trends happening this year – mindfulness, what better time to start some habits for self-love.
There are many things to do to help you appreciate yourself a bit better and practice self-love. But it’s not an overnight dealy. It does take time, but surely it has to be worth it. Not relying on others acceptance but you accept yourself.
So I’ve put together the few habits for self-love that I’ll be trying to incorporate into my routine. Nothing too extreme, but something that we can all try and do a bit more often to make ourselves feel better in the long run.
1 // Don’t compare yourself to others
Okay, so I know this is super hard. We are born to basically compare ourselves and make us better than others. But maybe this is why we can’t accept ourselves and focus on the things we are doing great. Because we are always focused on the things we aren’t doing as well as.
And I feel this comparison is happening more often because of social media. We literally scroll endlessly to look at other peoples lives and see what they are doing, rather than focusing on our own. Studies have shown that social media literally lead to feelings of depression and loneliness. So first steps could be to cut down your time on social media, and I’ve been doing this recently and it is so nice not to be constantly scrolling and trying to catch up with everything. I’ll have a post coming out about all the benefits I’ve received from my mini social media detoxing soon!
2 // Stop negative self-talk
Try and monitor your thoughts for the next couple days, and you’ll realise how regularly you say negative things about yourself. Most times I look in the mirror I’ll point out a thing I don’t like rather than spotting the things I do. So quickly change those negatives into positive. And slowly this will improve your outlook drastically.
Also, allow yourself to make mistakes. We aren’t perfect. We try to be, but we can’t be. We learn so much from the mistakes, and without them how could we grow as humans. So embrace them, and focus on what you have learnt rather than point out what you did wrong.
3 // Surround yourself with positive people
The people you spend your time with really influence you. You become the average of them. And if you spend all your time with negative people, then you will also become negative. So let go of these people, get rid of their toxic behaviour and find people who will improve you and help you grow. It’s pointless trying to practice self-love when the others around you will be bringing you down. Don’t think you are rude by removing these people from your life. You are numero uno. You are the only one who truly cares the most about you, so put yourself and your energy first!
4 // Practice mindfulness
This is a great habit to include in your routine as it has sooo many benefits. Not only are you becoming present in the moment, but you are also letting your thoughts flow through without affecting you. You will see the thoughts as clearly what they are and they will pass. You won’t focus on them and become so obsessed with the negativity. This is probably one of the most popular habits for self-love. Some ways you can be mindful is by meditating, doing some yoga ~ which is what I’m going to be doing. I’ve booked in at 8 am Monday morning session to start my week with being mindful!
5 // Have time to yourself
We’ve become so obsessed with this idea of being alone is lame. But really we should all schedule in sometimes for ourselves. And you can do this with one of the mindfulness habits above. But by having some ‘me time’ you will build your self-love and no longer become obsessed with others thoughts and opinions.
6 // Take it one day at a time
I don’t know one person who isn’t go go go anymore. We all want to do as much as we can with all our time. Cramming in as much as we can in one day, but really we shouldn’t. This isn’t good for our minds as they are constantly working. We should appreciate each thing we do every day, change doesn’t happen overnight. Becoming too focused on the end result rather than the process is why we aren’t appreciating ourselves. congratulate yourself for having a productive day and promote positivity throughout your day.
Every step you take is amazing. It is better than doing nothing. Self-love is such a beautiful practice. Improving your outlook on yourself, feeling good and improving your self-esteem can only bring positivity and happiness. I hope one of these habits for self-love have inspired you to explore and improve your mindset.
I really hope you enjoyed my first post of 2018, the year of wellbeing and mindfulness. I cannot wait to share with you my upcoming wellbeing posts, now I’ve changed niches I feel so inspired, doing something I love.
What are your habits for self-love?